Man Up with Simon
We probably have heard about a Greek philosopher, Aristotle, who discovered the law of causation. His teaching was simple; for everything that happens there has to be a cause.
When I was in school, I only memorised that stuff for the sake of passing the exams. When I now look at the life around us, I marvel at how right Aristotle was — his law works like magic.
Do you ever wonder why the going seems easy for some guys, average for many and very difficult for most? How some guys will hop from one multi-national to another almost like a fashion while thousands with similar or better credentials can’t find a basic job? Even before your class graduates, this guy already has two job offers while the rest of you struggle to write, re-write, print, photocopy, mail, drop your CV not forgetting giving copies to your aunties just in case they hear of any opening yet nothing is coming around. What you see happening to those people who always seem to have it easy has nothing to do with luck or witchcraft — it is an effect. You only get the effects you desire by fuelling the right causes.
This week, I share three causes, which will be critical to bringing you the effects you desire.
Acquiring respect for yourself:
In this world, you will only get the respect you take for yourself. There is no other known way of acquiring it but giving it away first. In your stride, make it a habit to show respect to all the people you meet, especially your seniors including your teachers, lecturers, aunties, uncles and neighbours. It starts by developing a good etiquette such as addressing people by their titles for example Mr, Mrs, Madam, Auntie or Uncle so and so. It also goes further to your dressing. Nobody worth their salt wants to be seen talking to a guy whose trousers are on the verge of dropping with underwear popping out in the name of sagging. When you show respect for and to other people, they reflect the same back to you and you establish good relations to people.
Making good friends:
Strong credentials are important but you will soon realise that the job market is more about friends than credentials. How do you make good friends? Whenever someone comes to your school or college to give a talk, take a few minutes to chat with them. Thank them for the talk, let them know how it has changed your life and ask for their contacts. Ask if you could visit them sometime in their office and keep in touch. Everyone loves being appreciated and that person will have you in mind for a long time.
They will remember talking to a crowd of students in your school but they will specifically remember one guy who stood out from the crowd. Establish genuine friendships with your teachers and lecturers, as these people usually know of existing opportunities.
If a lecturer came across an opening, wouldn’t it be easier for him to call and tell you about it than hang it on the notice board? You will find that some of the biggest breakthroughs you will get will be from references — people who know you. The wider your network of friends, the easier it is going to be for you.
Get out of the crowd: