Anne Anjao-Eboi
I am of the opinion that many women who desire to get married but haven’t found Mr Right, may have let him slip right through their fingers because of their ignorance or a fixed mind.
Before you crucify me, allow me to explain myself. Two sins God condemns strongly is selfishness and vanity, which in my opinion are responsible for the many single women in our midst today.
God’s desire is that marriage should flourish and the two stay together till death do them part. It is also God’s intention that those who choose to be single do so because they want to dedicate themselves to His service or as a result of the death of a spouse.
You will be amazed to learn the contents of some women’s list of what they call the qualities of an eligible bachelor. First on the list is always a fat bank account. He must also be handsome, strong and physically correct, understanding, a gentleman, sharp, knowledgeable and a host of other rigid qualities. Whoever said procrastination is the thief of time wasn’t far from the truth; before long, these women are past marriageable age and confined to the dungeons of misery.
Then you will hear them asking: Where have the good men gone to nowadays? Our fathers had style and class. They were gentlemen. They knew how to take care of their women. You cannot compare them to this hopeless bunch of men that rely on women to feed them.
Scum of the earth
Now, hold your horses. Who said all men live off women? Who said all of them resort to muscle, tug and push? Who said all men are miserable misers and egocentric creatures? Who said all men cannot walk past a Princess Diana look alike? How come you only attract the ‘scum of the earth?’
How do you ensure you marry a good man?
a) Always involve God in anything you do, in all your plans, including searching for a life partner. A man chosen by God will never disappoint you. Yes, there will be quarrels and misunderstandings, but if the man’s heart stays true to God, he will even fall seven times but each time, he will arise even stronger than before.
b) Be a good woman. You don’t expect to harvest oranges when you have sowed tares and thorns. Why do you expect the man to be an angel when you are the devil yourself? If you want a good man, then be good.
c) Set realistic targets. There will always be one thing God will not give you, so why expect a man to have a high profile job, an amazing car, a magnificent home and good character all in one package?
