Career women tend to date later in life. This exposes them to certain challenges, writes ANTHONY KAGIRI
A while ago, remembering her birthday, buying her gifts and sounding confident were a head start to winning a lady. A dinner date was a priced treat longed for by many women. These made a man a player in love.
Fast forward to the 21st Century and the modern woman has raised the bar on what impresses her. While a man who provides for his woman is admired, he is considered average by the career woman, if that is all he is.
With most women achieving as much as men, the game has changed and it now requires more than a charming man to win her. The modern woman is rising up the corporate ladder, succeeding in business and now has as much money, if not more, than many men.
The treats, swag and the ‘I am rich’ image no longer count and only impresses teenagers and girls in college.
The modern career woman, therefore, is looking for commitment, security and a life partner in all spheres. This new benchmark, however, has come with its challenges. The career woman takes longer to settle down, which narrows down the list of eligible men even as her standards rise.
When a woman gets to her late 20s and early 30s and has made a mark in her career, she is not ready to date for years, hoping that one day the relationship will transform into a marriage.
“At my age and career position, I’m no longer the 20-year-old college girl who was once impressed by high life. I’m also not growing younger, so I want to secure my future now,” says Sarah Jim, 30, who recently dumped her boyfriend of five years.
Although he would call Sarah daily, take her out to expensive dinner dates and showered her with gifts, he was not making any commitment or showing intentions to commit.
“He had been promising to take me to his folks for the last three years, but every time we planned, something came up on his end. I just got tired,” says Sarah.
Often, the modern woman is falling prey to men who are not in a hurry to commit and are out to have fun.