There she is again, pushing her shopping trolley across the isles, occasionally stopping to pick up an item or two. She is gorgeous, her stride is so graceful yet so assertive, and the skin-tight trousers she is wearing seem to have been made just for her. Her complexion is great and her hair complements her beautiful face. You almost bumped into a pillar as you watched her walk away. Truth be told, she walked past you — she didn’t even see you. But this is not the first girl you have had to let go. You are always left regretting why you didn’t make that bold move and talk to her. For how long will you remain timid about approaching a beautiful girl?
Everybody goes through this: Almost all men go through this every once in a while. There is something, however, that separates the men from the boys — decision to act. So why do many men get stuck at this point? Many guys start off on the wrong footing and as such, they never get to make the move. More often than not, three things — your state of mind, false beliefs and misconceptions, your appearance and approach will always get you started on the wrong footing.
State of mind
When guys spot a beautiful chick, they subconsciously start this mental process of finding every possible reason why they shouldn’t make a move on her. The most common ones include “well, she looks taken”, “she is not my type,” (yeah, right!), “she is too good for a guy like me,” “this is not the right place,” “I cannot afford her,” etc. Such thoughts only work against you, effectively contributing to lowering your self-esteem and confidence. As a matter of fact, many guys talk themselves out of making that move.
When approaching a girl, have the right frame of mind and reassure yourself that you can do it and that you deserve a chick like that. Focus on creating positive thoughts and generating positive energy within you. It is only when you have the required level of self-esteem and confidence that you can make a move and get it right. Remember, you need to get it right the first time.
False beliefs and misconceptions
Many times we have beliefs about chicks from school, the movies or from the boys, which are, in many instances, wrong. Some of these include that girls are fascinated by fancy opening lines, you have to look like Tom Cruise or drive a Ferrari and you need to flash a fat wallet to get her interest, among others. First, I would caution you against using those fancy lines when approaching a girl — girls get approached many times and she may have heard and seen those tired lines many times. Again you don’t have to look like anybody to get a beautiful girl. Sure, some men are good looking but I am sure you have never figured out why the ugly guys get all the beautiful girls? Good looks can give a guy a head start but girls are usually more interested in the person within not the person without. A wonderful personality is invaluable — worth much more than good looks.
Appearance and approach:
The first impression is the last impression. Always ensure that all parameters are right. Take a shower (at least once every day), always have a clean clothes, keep nails as well as your hair short and neat. Hygiene is important and girls can detect dirty stuff from a mile. They can tell if you had a shower just by looking at you. Nobody wants a filthy guy hanging around him or her. For the approach, avoid being too macho. A more genuine approach sells — where you appear to be casual, relaxed and just out to make friends. It is always friendship first, and then love later if you want a lasting relationship. Don’t forget to be calm, genuine and interesting because nobody including you, likes hanging around boring people.