Girl sees boy. Girl is attracted to boy. Boy responds to girl’s beauty and approaches her. Boy talks to girl. Girl replies, albeit shyly. A connection is made. Talk of a possible date is introduced. Girl is not sure if she should say yes.
Often, girls in their teens and early 20s are not always sure how to handle an invitation for a ‘coffee date’.
Do you say ‘yes’ immediately or tell the dude you need time to think about it? Do you engage your parents in your decision-making or will their reaction freak you out into silence?
What about your friends? Do you discuss it with them and then go with the majority vote? Do you talk to your pastor about it (gasp) or a mature relative? What about your teacher/lecturer or counsellor?
Rating
A date can seem like a daunting experience at the beginning but it need not be. Just approach it with a clear head and you will handle it with ease.
Let at least one of your parents know the dude you want to go out on a date with. Their opinion of him will go a long way in helping you figure out whether he is good material for a date.
If you have older siblings, let them in. Point the dude out to them and get their feedback.
During my day, anytime a dude wanted to go out with us, we would send out an ‘investigative squad’ to find out everything there was to know about him — his folks, where he went to school, his academic performance, his social status, but most of all, if he had any scandals with chicks.
Based on his overall rating, his date-ability would be judged.
Ground rules
